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SPIKEY SAYS:

SPIKE
SO HERE'S THE THING. THE ACE COMMUNITY CAME UP WITH THIS THING CALLED THE "SPLIT-ATTRACTION MODEL" THAT SHOWS HOW WHAT'S COLLECTIVELY CALLED "ATTRACTION" IS A LOT OF DIFFERENT FEELINGS ROLLED INTO ONE CONFUSING WORD. [ROMANTIC, PLATONIC, AESTHETIC, THE LIST GOES ON.] YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE ACE TO USE IT. WE WERE JUST THE ONES COOL ENOUGH TO FIGURE IT OUT.

WHEN I WAS A KID I STARTED POKING AT THIS IDEA ON MY OWN, CALLED FEELINGS "PLATONIC CRUSHES" AND "AESTHETIC CRUSHES" AND GOT MADE FUN OF PRETTY HARD ABOUT IT. BUT I THINK YOU, RANDOM READER ON THE INTERNET, ARE BETTER THAN THAT. YOU CAN SEE HOW THIS WORKS OUT HERE. JUST CUZ YOU LIKE HOW SOMEONE LOOKS DOESN'T MEAN YOU WANNA DATE THEM. RIGHT?

AND NORMALLY I HATE TO EXPLAIN MY OWN STUFF BUT I'LL DO IT HERE CUZ NOT A LOT OF PEOPLE KNOW ABOUT THIS BUT THEY SEEM REAL HAPPY WHEN I TALK ABOUT IT CUZ ATTRACTION IS WEIRD AND UNDERSTANDING IT BETTER IS COOL. [EXCEPT THOSE GUYS WHO GAVE ME SHIT ABOUT IT BUT I BET THEY'RE HAVING FUN NOT UNDERSTANDING THINGS NOW HAHAHA] IF YOU GET IT THEN DON'T BOTHER READING. IF YOU DON'T THEN HERE.

SO WHEN SPEEDY SAYS PUNK GUYS ARE GOOD-LOOKING THAT'S JUST A STATEMENT ABOUT THEIR APPEARANCES. DOESN'T MEAN HE HAS A CRUSH ON THEM, OR FEELS ATTRACTED TO THEM IN ANY OTHER WAY. IT'S LIKE LOOKING AT A COOL PAINTING. THAT'S IT. DARBY ON THE OTHER HAND SEEMS TO NOT GIVE A CRAP ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE LOOK LIKE BUT HE GETS THE CULTURE AROUND HIM ENOUGH TO MAKE JOKES LIKE THAT. YOU MIGHT SAY "THE WORD 'ATTRACTIVE' MEANS SEXUAL/ROMANTIC ATTRACTION' BUT HEY WE GOT THE WORDS WE GOT AND YOU CAN STRETCH 'EM IF YOU WANT SOMETHING THAT'S GOT PUNCH AND THE OTHER GUY KNOWS WHAT YOU MEAN.

I'M RAMBLING ABOUT THINGS BUT MAYBE IT HELPED SOMEONE OUT. I DUNNO.

COMMENTS:

I innerstand what you are saying and I have thoughts about some people are good-looking but I don't have any interest in dating. I don't have any sexual attraction to guys anymore because of my past. It took me a while to figure out that I was Ace after dating someone two years and also last year. I've come to the conclusion to not have sex at all. Thank you for drawing Ace representation in your comic.
SPIKE
asexuality has been getting a lot more visibility and it's cool to see people with a big range of experiences figuring themselves out
jmluvsbob
Exactly. Looking good and thinking people look good or are attractive doesn't necessarily have to do with sexual feelings. It can sometimes, but it could also just be you think someone looks good and that's it. I've thought people look nice without any other feelings about it before. Nice insight as well, especially since I'm not ace myself.
SPIKE
I got a lot of aesthetic attraction and I wish I could tell people "you look cool as fuck" without them getting funny ideas
I like that you have unapologetically ace/aro characters in your work. The ace community is often overlooked unfortunately. But these guys are queer and they’re here and I love it.
SPIKE
hell yeah!
Kevin_Redcrow
I am increasingly fascinated by the variety and permutations of sexual orientation and gender expression.

I remember my early notions of sexuality were gay and straight. Then I heard of bisexuality.

Then more and more identities emerged in the media.

I once went to a counseling clinic specializing in the treatment of ADHD. The patient intake form was online with blanks to fill, boxes to check, and radio buttons to click.

I came to a question that asked for sexual orientation. The only two choices were gay and straight, but it was worded as "heterosexual / homosexual".

Considering that ADHD itself has little to do directly with gender or sexual orientation, I was goddam offended. I was also offended that there were only two choices, and I was supremely offended that the answering the question was required for the completion of the form.
SPIKE
that question seems to be standard for any kind of healthcare but it's so out of bounds for ADHD wow
Kevin_Redcrow
This was a small independent clinic located in a conservative suburban town in the greater metro area. I think the psychologist who practiced there had an agenda.

When I met him for my appointment, he was clearly uncomfortable with me.

By the time I found this clinic, I had done a lot of research on adhd on my own, and we mutually agreed that personal sessions weren't necessary. I did attend the clinic's support group until my work situation made it impractical.
I understand what you mean perfectly. Aesthetics is a big part of how we see people, but it need not be sexual in nature